Tuesday, October 21, 2008

he lectured, he smiled, he charmed

it is always fascinating for me to watch bob, a man who shares my bed, sucks my cock and makes mad passionate love to me, in a totally different environment and acting in a learned, professional manner.
such was the case this weekend in rogers, arkansas. bob was someone different, someone whose knowledge and experience oozed out of his pores. he spoke eloquently about his specialty and while watching him i could think of nothing else except that i had just seen him naked, shaving, combing his hair and talking to me about life in general and specifically where we would go for dinner.
he was in a great mood for he was being honored for a paper he wrote last year (i knew nothing about it of course...but that is his way). he is shy, he holds most stuff back, both good and not so good. it has been my quest, and i have been above averagely successful at bringing him out of his emotional shell, to make him comfortable talking to me about the stuff that makes him tick, the stuff that he would not normally discuss with anyone: what lies in his heart and his soul.
Anyway: he was brilliant, speaking to his colleagues in a manner both personal and scholarly. i was proud of him.
rogers offers nothing much except a "w" hotel (which floored me to be honest), a good restaurant, "bone fish." rogers is also a "dry" county which means that the proprietors of bone fish have to go to a retail facility and buy liquor when they need it. i asked what would happen if i brought in a bottle of don julio tequila and they replied that i could be arrested by the federal authorities for boot legging. yet, i could bring in a bottle of wine...so go figure.
rogers and it's neighbor, bentonville exist primarily for the pleasure of the vendors
of sam's and wall mart, so needless to say bone fish was pretty empty on saturday and sunday night so that bob and i were able to get to know the workers there pretty well: not one of whom had a southern accent...all were transplants from other parts of the country, some even from southern california.
so we had our run of the place.
on sunday, we saw "appaloosa" directed by ed harris, starring the tremendously sexy viggo mortensen. "appaloosa" is a western but one in which there is a fair amount of irony and frankly seeing ed harris and viggo together on the huge screen together gave me a boner: two more beautiful mean i would be hard pressed to name. ok: brad pitt and george clooney...but who's counting? the movie was good, not great, the popcorn was cheap and the denizens of rogers were kind and considerate.
nothing much happened: it was all chill and low key. i loved it.
peace,
tyler

8 comments:

Tim in Italy said...

That was one of your best posts. I don't think you've ever come closer to definitively expressing the intimate and heartfelt core of your relationship. I'm impressed.

Jérem' said...

Actually, this makes me want so hard to (finally) see Bob's face... :)

tyler said...

j:
as i have stated before the psychology racket is a close knit one here in santa barbara and any kind of public display, whether it be partying with britney spears and having your photo taken with her or appearing in your bf's blog, is strictly forbidden by the powers that be.
i will be in europe after christmas with bob and will have him on display wherever i go.
it's the world of higher education: love it or leave it.
peace,
t.

Jérem' said...

sorry man, i never meant to piss you off

tyler said...

j:
no, no no. you did not piss me off. i was just exlaining....nothing else.
peace,
tyler

WillySmith said...

I'd be a hypocrite if I said I also didn't enjoy the anonymity thing... afterall, if you are involved in higher education, and you can be identified, you probably shouldn't be talking about 1) what you really think of everyone around you, 2) how you sometimes enjoy a bit of kink with various partners identifiable to those also in academia 3) how some less astute readers may classify you as a raging alcoholic and 4) how most nights you would prefer x-tube and your right hand to human companionship because that way you don't have to make conversation or cuddle afterwards.

tyler said...

willy-boi:
i think that your writings are more transparent than you think.
yes, i get all the irony, sarcasm and misanthropy but you can't hide the other stuff from me though i guess that you could also be a big assholed jerk.
but i'm thinking not.
peace,
t.

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