Sunday, July 13, 2008

lazy days and nights

muggy sunday morning in new york city: in order to spend a couple days with bob, i decided not to study this weekend.
sunday: this morning we ran to times square very early, stopped at the carnegie deli for bagels, lox and cream cheese, went to the gym and now we are in bed. he is asleep right now. i can hear him breathe as i type this. i could write things about how i like to watch guys sleep and how cute they look when they do so...but i won't.
about the run: 6 am, we ran down broadway to 44th street then crossed 44th to park avenue and then back to 121st street...even the street people were asleep. it was like the first scene of the movie, "28 days later." we didn't even see any police. it was like heaven or what i hope heaven will be like: a cosmopolitan city with everything you could ever hope for contained within 100 blocks: movies, theater, restaurants of all kinds, book shops, hot dog stands, gyro stands, shopping of every nature (not that i am a "shopper" per se...i'm one of those that knows what i want, finds it or not...and leaves the store). the run was uneventful except that bob was not used to running with me nor i with him. on the surface, you might think: so, what's up with that, huh? you put on your gear: trackies (stole this term for running shoes from a brit), black low rise sox, black cotton shorts, wife beater and tee shirt (which usually gets pulled off within one block of home but you need it if you want service anywhere in this town). you go out the door and you run, hopefully both in the same direction. one problem though: i am so used to running by myself that i do not speak while running as it interrupts my breathing. bob goes with his psychology cronies and i guess they speak continually : chatting about all sorts of things psychological or sporty.
so bob would ask me a question and i would give him a curt answer. after a couple of these he thinks that i am mad at him. then i have to tell him the solo runner philosophy and immediately I feel bad. so i make him stop and assure him that it has nothing to do with him. ok, i know: YAWN time.
all of the above is to let you know the following:
1. bob and i are doing very very well
2. we are going to watch the entire season of "mad men" with the dreamboat jon hamm on on demand today...13 episodes worth.
3. i will cook all day as i shopped yesterday at the freeway market and have a bunch of food and wine to last us all day and night.
4. i now know that bob can fall asleep at the drop of a hat even if he has just woken up. so this means that i will never get on a plane with him if i want company...because he will not be able to provide same as he will be asleep.
saturday night: we went to little italy with school friends (one cougar (an older sister of one of my friends)woman took a decidedly sensual interest in bob, actually touching his face...and of course she became someone that i had to re-adjust...if you know what i mean). the meal was great, the wine was better and then we were off to a soho GAY bar: a first for bob. it was sort of funny in that bob hung on to me like a little kid. think about it: this mature, together,buff dude afraid of a bunch of screaming (ok, only a few were actually screaming) queens. it was sweet. i assured him that i would protect him and that he had nothing to fear but fear itself.....(think about it my quoting douglas mac arthur in a soho gay bar??)
ok: so now i must get up and cook something for lunch (bob w/o fail eats what moms used to call: 3 squares)and do the prep for dinner so we can began to watch my secret boyfriend, jon hamm.
cheerio.....peace,
tyler

music: kaskade has become my new musical hero. go to itunes and search for "kaskade remixes." his stuff is danceable, dramatic, sophisticated. the guy is near genius. i love his music. UPPER RIGHT: check out kaskade's "move for me" and i dare you not to move your ass!

10 comments:

tyler said...

yay? please do not think that we have done the dirty deed...yet.
remember our professional ties are not yet officially cut and if nothing else bob is a righteous man: honest and forthright despite me begging and pleading him for sex. just kidding.....about the last part as i have not yet resorted to b and p, yet...yet....yet.
peace,
t.

Tim in the South said...

This is very sweet, and the beginning of an HBO mini-series. It's so nice to see two guys of what appears to be rather varied backgrounds caring enough about one another to explore a relationship. The sex (love making?) will come soon enough. The better you know one another, the better it will be. I'm very happy for you and thinking about redecorating the guest room in case you want to include northern Italy in your honeymoon plans.

tyler said...

t:
oh yeah so i'm the ONLY one who thinks about fucking, huh?
i have written proof that you wanted me to toss your salad fixin's...dated 7/4/08...proof that will stand up in any court of law in the country...so don't act so innocent and pure. no guy in SB is innocent and pure and you and i know this only too well.
so: how's life in spokane? k up there with you? how's moms?
peace,
t.

dit said...

I love Manhattan in the wee small hours. Its amazing.

Glad things are going well for you and Bob.

You describe the city quite well. I love it!

tyler said...

kaskade remixes: yes there are a lot on itunes and even more on beatport.com.
be chill with moms: listen to someone who always had probs with his mom about everything but when it comes down to it, unless she seriously neglected you....she did and is doing the best that she can or knows how to do. raising children is not easy.
the above is not easy for me to say because i didn't realize this until way way after moms was gone.
it's none of my business of course but you might want to re-evaluate your thinking there...just a suggestion coming from a friend.
peace,
t.

tyler said...

timmmy:
oh fuck, do you think he might ask me to marry him? it is legal in cali at least at the moment and bob is so traditional....yikes. i mean i would definitely try and have his children but can i finish my education first?
he would make a great father though i think he would fall asleep and drop the kid should said kid fall asleep in his arms.
so much to think about.
of course as i type this bob is taking his pre-dinner nap while i happily sweat over a hot stove: a big sautee pan full of paella with chicken, crab legs, shrimp, saffron, mussels and spanish white burgundy...
peace,
t.

Tim in the South said...

I am envious of the domestic picture you paint, but I also know that for me it wouldn't last. Moments suit me better than lives.

Bob is comfortable enough, or self confident enough, or both, to be himself around you. I really admire that. Cherish what you have and don't let it go easily. Connections like this don't come along too often. But I'm sure you already know that.

Anonymous said...

You had me at: "while i happily sweat over a hot stove"

That's so hot! What happened to Bobolicious? he just became BOB.

Seriously, glad things are going well. Your happy, I'm happy!

dit said...

oh my, do you think he will ask you to marry him? Would you do it right and wear a tux? Or go all casual in linen on the beach?

tyler said...

timmy:
i swear your last sentence sounds very much like a line from one of my forbidden pleasure films, "the bridges of madison county."
"love like this comes but once in a lifetime."
god that film makes me sob..i swear i've probably seen it 40 times and cry like a fuckin' baby every time.
closet:
yup he's just bob now.
ditty:
the man is so forthright and righteous that after, please god make it soon, we have sex he will feel obligated to marry me. then what do i do?
peace,
t.